Some dude from yahoo answers had a cool question. Now, its obvious he hasnt taken my secret quiz, but ignore that, and focus on his question, and how I answer it.

Question: I’m not great at asking girls out but there’s a shop next door to where I’m working at the moment. A girl works there on the checkout and I really like her and Im pretty sure she likes me too. She seems like the quiet type.

I want to ask her out, whats the best way of doing this and what do I say to her? Oh and Im 20 years old, if that makes any difference.

Answer:

Well, I’m going to make a guess here. You’re not really asking me “how do I ask her out”… You already know that, you just say “Hey want to go out some time?”. What I THINK you’re really asking is “How do I ask her out in a way that maximizes my chances of success, and how do I do it in a respectful, cool way”.

Glad you asked -> Here’s how…

See, what you want to do is set it up first. What you really want to do first is do most of the work before you even utter any of those words. You want to make fairly certain that she’s interested, and let her know that you’re interested before you even ask her out. The way you do is go over and find an excuse to talk to her a few times, like check things out. As you’re doing this, SMILE a huge, flirty smile that says “I want you girl” and look into her eyes with a flirty smile. Crack a joke, flirt, say something irrelevant and see how she reacts. Do this a couple of times, and flirt a couple of times with her to see how she responds. Does she react neutral, does she respond in a cold manner? Does she flirt back and even make it even more apparent?

Next, go into the store, and just put yourself in her LINE OF SIGHT. Like find an excuse to be somewhere she can see  you, like checking out mags, or whatever, and notice if she keeps looking your way, trying to get your attention. Note that this is easy to overdo. I only want you to flirt with her a few times, and only maybe do this “is she noticing me” test only ONCE. Trust me, if she is attracted to you AT ALL, she will keep glancing at you.

If she does keep glancing at you, right after this test, go to her check-out, flirt again, and slip her your card. I find this to be the most subtle way as you won’t embarrass her by asking her out in front of everyone (while she’s working in check-out), and you can write a cute message on the back of the card. After you do this, don’t walk into that store again unless she messages you or calls you.

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