Some dude from yahoo answers had a cool question. Now, its obvious he hasnt taken my secret quiz, but ignore that, and focus on his question, and how I answer it.
Question: So i really like this girl and im a shy guy when it comes to asking girls out. I dont know why this happens i guess i afraid of rejection so how do i man up and ask her out. How do i become a man and ask her out without being scared? And wat do i do if she says no? Also wat would after i she say yes?!!
Answer: Well, I’m going to ti give you an answer you’re not gonna like, but you need to hear it… There is nothing I can tell you, or give you, that will magically make you be able to go out tomorrow and ask her out. We’ve all been there, but it takes a while to overcome.
So how do you overcome it? My suggestion, get good with girls in other areas first. You want to make as many female friends as you can. This will make you a lot more comfortable and at ease around women. Besides, female friends are really cool, and will often set you up with their female friends… So in that way… there’s a double bonus… You get to befriend and become intimate with girls without ever asking them out (an intimate friendship with a girls is really going to ease you into being comfortable with women)… And number two, you get dates and relationships with girls (you get set up with girls) -> this makes you even further comfortable with girls.
Do the above, and in no time, you’ll find that asking girls out, has suddenly, and out of nowhere become a non-issue. But again, you need to focus on befriending and socializing with girls, instead of on asking them out.
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If you don’t try you are not going to get anywhere. Make sure you talk to her in private about it (in front of her friends is very awkward) and ask her when the time is ready. You have to be her friend first. Don’t just flat out ask her. She will be freaked out. Just be really close to her and be nice and caring for her then she will develop feelings for you. If she says yes, congrats. If she says no, it’s not the end of the world. There are plenty of girls out there for you. Good luck dude!
walk up to her. start a conversation. if she’s with other people ask her to walk away for a minute. if you dont know how to ask DON’T use any pick up lines. simply say “i really like you… will you go out with me?” if she says no play cool and say “sorry can we still be friends?” and if she says yes say hold her hand and everything else should come naturally.
Best of Luck. Hope All Goes Well.
just do it hun !!! and if she says NO – just move on !! ull find someone else in no time—
if she says yes— u lucky b.a.s.t.a.r.d. !!!!!!! hhaha…
good luck–
–first get some guts just do it, you cant do anything to prepare just do it!
—second if she says no, accept it move on, or if she is your friend then explain to her how you just wanted to know how she felt, but you don’t want things between you weird.
–third if she says yes,, you decide what you want its your relationship no one Else’s
good luck sweetie.
If your shy then try a note its much easier that way. But in person will show her that you really care. when you see her try to get her away from the group she is in and then ask her. if she says no just be cool about it even if your not and if she says yes give her a smile and maybe get her number or tell her you’ll talk later. Dont keep talking or she might get antsy and want to tell her friends. Good luck!
First start a normal conversation with her. Ask her something casual, not tacky or perverted. Then when the conversation is ending say, “Oh, by the way want to go out some time?” If she says no, it’s not the end of the world just find a new target! Keep Trying you can’t go any where if you never try.
you must be brave and the worst that can happen is she says no way and then you act like it did not bother you and move on to the next one, you should ask a ugly girl out first to practice on, do the fun thing ,a movie and a meal then home, good luck
You ask for her number first, and then you decide by how happy she was in giving it to you on whether you will ask her out. If she was reluctant, don’t bother. Wait a week to call. Ask for a specific day and time and don’t be too flexible or eager to please. If she tries to change the date in any way, withdraw the offer.
Everyone is afraid at first. Practice makes perfect! Just be more laid back about how you ask her. Ask her like you would a guy friend when you ask them if they want to hang out. Stand tall and be confident! WE have all experienced rejection and that is ok, but you won’t be rejected every time or maybe even this time. If you don’t try you will never know! You can do it!
Come on Man! You can do this! Woman always feel flattered when asked out by a guy! Even if she says no, she will still appreciate it. You know the saying “Nice guys finish last” Well “Shy guys also finish last” Dude, if you dont ask her (try email) someone else will and you will lose out. Grab your package and Man Up! You can do this!
just suck it up. i did and it worked. try not to stumble on your words but dont blurt it out either. just act natural if u can. practice what ure gonna say. if she says no? then just ask if u can be friends. if she says no, then dont go crying to ure friends. just move along. live through it and dont look back.
Theres is a simple art to asking a girl out. There are about 80 different ways to go about it. heres my advice for someone shy. Get her to speak to you first. Walk infront of her and drop a pencil, or a book (dont look like a nerd though) and make sure shes close enough for her to almost bump u. She’ll say excuse me, ull say..its cool..if everytime i dropped a book a beautiful girl appeared, id drop alot of books. She’ll do one of these three things. 1. she’ll laugh. (green light). 2. She’ll smirk and keep walking (Yellow light, u might have to quickly change the subject, give her a good compliment…shirt, hair smile…nothing vulgar) 3. She’ll look at u like u have herpes on ur lip. (keep walking, cause u still have ur dignity)
Good Luck…
Just start off with a casual conversation. Then just ask her! if she says no, just say “that’s cool…” and walk away. If she says yes, celebrate a little like by saying “awesome!” and smiling at her. Hopefully, things will just go with the flow from there. GOOD LUCK!
tell yourself that any girl would be lucky to have you. if she says no then there are a lot of fish in the sea my friend. however if she says yes make sure you know where you are taking her on that first date and be sure to set it up right away.
go up to her and say hey do you uh wanna hang out sometime?
if she says no then u say o sorry i didn’t mean to make you feel uncomfortable.
if she says yes then say how is Saturday at four or what ever time and date you want.
Just do it!
That’s what I felt like when I asked a guy to dance with me. BUT I ASKED HIM. And he said yes. Thank god.
So just ask her and she’ll prob say yes because well, you sound like a great guy! (and girls usually say yes)
Hey! Do you know one of her friends? If you’re in high school, ask her friend how she feels about you. Remember, if she says no, that has nothing to do with you and everything to do with her. Then try, try again.
just ask her and say you like her alot
if she says no
then just say ohh thats cool
i understand
and if its yes then be like awesome well can i get your number :]
its easy believe me
good luck and dont chicken out!!
Ask her if she is interested in cup of coffee or something. Rejection is a part of learning and growing up.Don’t take it seriously.
You should start talking to her. During you’re convo. ask her out! If she says yes, then say okay do you want to go to _____ Friday night? If she says no then say good because I got dared! ~I LOVE DEREK
Pretend your on the computer and ask her .I saw a girl at the gas station and I wanted her so I asked her for a quickie and she did me right there ,
finally someone who says balls!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Tell her then if she says no call her a whore and say im the best u can get u filthy slut. it sounds wierd but it worcked for me
well you just have to get the courage and confidence to do this , it might take time though
Calm down, take a deep breath, and just be yourself.
just do it !
the worst thing that can happen is that she can say no.
good luck
write a note thats what i keep getting told im in the same situation