Some dude from yahoo answers had a cool question. Now, its obvious he hasnt taken my secret quiz, but ignore that, and focus on his question, and how I answer it.
Question: It has come up again in my life and I am still unsure of how to go about doing this. I have no problem asking girls out. That’s simple to me (scary, but simple enough to do it). The problem comes with asking a girl out that ALWAYS is with her friend, or friends. Whenever I talk to her, I try to include her friend in out of respect and to be friendly. But asking the target girl out is so selective, how can it be done? The only time I ever see this girl is when she is with her friend.
Answer: Its simple dude… If you’re never in a situation that you’re alone with the girl you like, its pretty obvious to me what you’re doing. You want to, and are asking girls out that you’re not so friendly with yet. In other words, you ask a girl out while the only thing you know about her is that she’s cute.
Here’s what I’d suggest… How about befriending her, her friend and her entire group first? You know… girls are good for other things than sex and/or a relationship. So, if she’s genuinely cool to date, she’d be really cool to socialize with first – no need to rush for the date. So invite her entire group out somewhere, like a party or going out, or whatever.
Its a bit-longer-term thinking, but trust me, in the end YOU win. You all go out, you, her, her friends, your friends. And even if you and her don’t end up doing something, maybe some of your guy friends hook up with her female friends. So try that on for a size.
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Go up to her and her friends….”Hey can I talk to you for a sec?” Walk away with her in privite. Ask her out. DONE!
(omg i had the same answer as the person above….well then we must have it right! 
lol do what we said. hehe)
Talk to her friend.
Always engage the friend. It makes you seem very friendly, it puts her defenses down, and it will raise your appeal to the target.
Try to approach both of them, converse with both of them to entertain both of them, and then isolate your target. The best way to do this is ask a friend to come with you to keep the friend busy while you temporarily isolate your target, ask her out, get her number, make out with her, or whatever.
Make sure when you pull her aside it’s not horrible awkward. Try something which isn’t so obvious at first, like, “Oh I need to show you this song that I know you’ll love” and then take her to your bag, strategically located somewhere in the distance with your iPod. Say something that will make her interested and go with you to go check it out. Once you’re alone, talk to her some more, make sure she’s attracted and go for it.
Establish some sort of deal with her friend.
Tell her you want to spend some time with the girl you want to ask out.
She should hopefully accept your request, and give you some alone time with her.
If its a group of friends, I say you just pull her out. Ask her to come and talk to you personally just for a little bit. Then ask her out.
I would do that , If i was in your position.
Goodluck
- Zain
well…then next time the girl you like is with 2 of her girlfriends just have a quick conversation w/all of them and then ask her if you can talk to her for a sec, pull her aside…and sure enough the other 2 girls will just chit chat and be all giggly…but the important thing is theyll b distracted w/ each other while you swoop in on ur crush!..or if just her n one friend do the same but make sure its towards the end of the visit so that way the rest of the time its not just u n ur crush making her friend feel like a 3rd wheel!…hope i helped!… :{)
=( i tried to wait for a time when she wasn’t with her friend, and she kinda moved on so yeah don’t do that…maybe you could be like “hey do you mind if i talk to you over here, alone?” emphasis on the “alone” part
hope it helped =)
Does she have a cell? call her. If not text her. otherwise ask her out infront of her friends. That would boost her up by getting asked out by a boy infront of her friends. Girls like ot be the centre of attention. GOODLUCK!
Simple yet efficient solution. You can simply ask her
“Hey can I talk to you for a second?”
“Hey ___ do you have a minute?”
etc..
or ask her friend(s)
“Can I steal her real quick”
etc.
Hope I helped!
kind of pull the target girl aside by saying, “hey, can i talk to you for a sec?” haha idk i don’t have much experience with this. but her friends should be tactful enough to give you guys space and privacy.
Hmmm… maybe the girl and her friend are lovers… just a thought.
In all seriousness, you just have to pull her aside somehow, or say f- the friend and just ask her to lunch right there.
Walk up to her friend and be like”hey _____ can i steal _____? Don’t worry I’ll bring her back!”
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Myspace?
That’s my problem too… but I think the solution is just confidence, man.