It’s almost impossible to try to learn how to talk to girls without going through the phase of being frustrated with the apparent luck that most women show for this process.
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Wherever you turn there is some woman complaining about the way a man “did it”. He was too direct so he’s a creep, he was not direct enough so he’s not a real man. He asked her for her phone number too soon so he’s a jerk, he asked her too late and blew it off so he’s dumbass… He called way too many times to ask her out, (men are such pigs), oh my god, can you believe it, he gave up after just asking me out twice (men are such pussies).
You are investing the time and effort in trying to learn how to effectively give women what they want… and all you hear is complaints. It’s never good enough. What’s WRONG with these women?! Do they have any idea how hard this stuff is? They have no right to talk like that… it’s not… “fair”. They just stand around and wait for men to do EVERYTHING… they never approach, they never initiate the sex, and they always complain about it not being “done right”. If they’re so perfect, how come they’re not the ones doing it?! If they are such awesome experts at how to approach and when to make a move… why aren’t they DOING it. What ever happened to being equal? Equal only in those areas that suit you huh!? This sucks!
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Or… does it really suck?
Are you at the point where you find yourself obsessed with thought-clouds like the above paragraph bombarding your mind? Do you find yourself flooded with images of women being mean, ungrateful and bitchy? Well… i have both some good news and some bad news. The good news is… ah stop the cliches!
Basically if you are at this point it’s a sign that you have been through many challenges in your comfort zone. You have grown, you have dared go where most men will never dare go (their sexuality and social self). You have worked hard and you’ve gotten some results that you former-self would be astonished by…
But you have also hit a brick will and you are showing the beginning signs of “misogyny”. Yes, that IS a form if misogyny, which if you don’t take control of… can get out of control. Bah.
Listen up, the only reason you are viewing women and the entire process of becoming the best social-self you can be in such a light is for one reason, and one reason only:
- You are pushing yourself too hard
Allow yourself to take a break and relax for a while. Be an average “afc” for a while. It’s ok. The women will still be here. Relax, detach from having to get any result from women, just detach of any outcome and let go. Allow yourself to not “do” anything with women at all. Just “be yourself” for a while, and magically you will see a lot of these things clicking into place.
Do you think there is even one single person who is super-successful with women that has these thoughts? NO, there isn’t, I can assure you. Women can smell this “perception”, a mile away.
And that’s all it is a “perception” that you have caused onto yourself by trying to force yourself into being the super mack-daddy of the world. Relax, detach from needing women and magically “bitchy girls” will vanish. You will find yourself adoring and appreciating women. You will never encounter any women who complain and… oddly enough women will start doing all the moves, there will no longer be a need to ask “how to talk to girls” as things will happen spontaneously and in the moment as you are “being yourself”.
You just have to let go of the outcome.
I did this on my own before stumbling onto this page. I have to say, it seems to work pretty well.