The single one most important element in getting great at approaching women is confidence. If you are confident in approaching them, guess what?
1) You’re going to approach pretty much anytime you like a woman, regardless of her looks, age, mood or situations
2) Your approach is going to go much much better. The number one factor in a woman respond well to an approach? How confidently you do it.
So how in the world do we get confidence approaching women when… you need confidence to do it right, and… to get confident at it, you need to it until you become confident.
Isn’t this like a catch-22 type of thing?
No, because there is a way to break the loop. You can start approaching women even if you don’t have the confidence to do it well. And you will get the confidence in the process of getting the experience.
See… the secret is that there is no rule that states you have to begin with women you like or in the situations that are the scariest. If you break down approaching women into enough little bite-size chunks, you can get to a chunk which you can do confidently today. For example, for some guys that might be asking an old lady for the directions. For others, they can go straight to saying “hi” to a semi-attractive woman.
Whatever it is… it exists for you as well. You can break down any process into an infinite amount and levels of action. And if you do, there will be one where you super-confident.
So…
Just do the thing that you’re confident in for a few times, then try the next thing on the progress line. In the above example, it would be “asking a middle aged woman for directions”, once you got confidence with the old ladies.
You can take as many or as little steps as it takes you personally to get to say “saying hi to a cute girl”, to “complimenting a cute girl”, to “holding a conversation with a hot woman in the middle of a public space, and being totally cool about it”… or any level you desire.
How in the heck is this going to help me get hot women?
Easy… The largest sign of being confident is appearing cool, calm and relaxed. That is, (as ironic as it seems), the most successful approach you could do to a hot woman… is one where you approach her the same as you would your grandma, or an old female acquaintance of yours. That is, completely, and utterly relaxed and without a “sexual agenda”. That right there is the largest sign of confidence. And with the formula I gave you above, you can reach any level of confidence in lighting speeds.
