Ok, we’ve been asked for a list of the top “openers” or lines to use to approach girls… And here they come… No less than a 100 of them… Now… The thing that makes this list special is the fact that most of the other lists you will find online are “humorous” in nature… I.E they are a collection of cheesy lines… i.e. “pickup lines”.
This is a list of “openers” or conversation starters… I.E they are used by real people starting conversations with real women they approach. They are generally used in two ways… as:
1) Newbie Crutches – This means that you use these until you get comfortable with approaching women, and you no longer need a pre-made set of rules and tactics on what to say and do…
and
2) When you just happen to not have anything to say
Ideally what happens, and will happen with you if you carefully pay attention to all the information on this site is that… over time… you will get to the point where you just naturally find yourself just opening women in-the-moment with something that relates to the situation or by giving a funny spontaneous remark or comment… Until you get there, this list might come in hand… Be sure to check out our article on how to go about using them as well…
Top 100 Pickup Lines To Approach Girls
Default
- “Hey”
- “Hi, I’m [name]” (hand)
- “Hi, I was just sitting across the room and I noticed you over here, so I thought I’d come say hello….”
- “Do you guys know when this place closes?”
- “Hey guys, know what other places are having an open night tonight?”
- (at closing time) “Hey where else is good to go around here?”
- “Hey, where did you go to school?”
- “Hey, YOU. Yeah, YOU.” [commence game]
- (if the bartender is busy) “Hey, you’re hot. Get that bartender’s attention over here.”
- “So why the long [sad, happy, whatever emotion] face?”
- “Do I have food in my teeth? [show teeth]”
- “Hi, I just saw you from across the room and thought I’d come over and hit on you for a while.”
- “Is that [x drink] you’re drinking?” Or “What are you drinking?”
- “Hey, you owe me a drink.” (if she asks Why) “Why not?”
- “So, seen any good movies lately?”
- “You look bored.”
- “Have you ever seen so many [losers, hot girls/guys, ugly purses, whatever] in one place?”
- “So are you here to drink, dance or fuck?” (9 times out of 10 its “all three”)
- “So why are you all alone today?” (to a lone wolf)
- “Excuse me, are you Catholic [x religion]?”
- “My parents taught me it was impolite to stare” (beat, blah blah) “Let’s go dance.”
- “Is that YOU that smells so good?”
- Do you know where such and such is? [as she starts explaining]… Actually I just needed an excuse to start talking to you, what’s your name
- Hey, you look like a nice person, I had to come over and meet you, hi I’m …
OBSERVATIONAL (random statements about x, y, or z)
- “HOT makeup”
– “Hey, that’s a cool / nice [x article of clothing]”
- “You look JUST like my bratty little sister.”
- “You have an evil glint in your eye.”
- “You look like Paris Hilton….a less-evil version of Paris Hilton.
(commenting on another girl’s something) “OMG, I can’t believe she is wearing / carrying that [x article of whatever]” (in a conspiratorial whisper)
- How do you like the DJ/Band/Whatever
- Hey guys, who was this song by, anyone know?
- Notice how we’re the only people in this supermarket under 89 years old?
- Man I love that book (as you spot her grabbing some book)… or
hey is that supposed to be a good book?
- Nice Necklace… That’s not local is it… looks foreign
- Are you A Dancer? You have a very elegant walk/poise
HIGH TENSION STUFF (You need pretty good emotional calibration to get away with these)
- “So I hear you’ve been talkin’ shit about me girl.”
- “Are you the kind of girl that can take a compliment? Good, me too. You go first.”
- (to your wingman) “Wow man, look at that [X quality] on [x girl within earshot, being very blatant] ….shit, I bet she – would shoot me down INSTANTLY, I cannot go talk to that PREDATOR [overacting]”
- “Would you like some gum?”
- “Hey, I thought I’d come over and talk to you rather than just staring at you [eye-fucking you] all night.”
- “What are YOU lookin at?” (with big playful smile, after strong eye contact)
- “Yeah, I’d like a Big Mac and Fries” (at a bank teller or Starbucks cashier)
- “You shure got a purrty mouth” (said Sling Blade style)
- “Hi. Would you like to come sailing on my yacht?” (doesn’t matter if you don’t have one, it’s said tongue in cheek, making fun of rich guys)
- “Woof. Woof woof woof.”
- “Do you like potatoes?”
GROUPS
- “Hey, did you guys see that [X crazy thing] happening just now at [X location]? That was wild, this [X story-telling….]”
- (to your wingman) “Oooh shit man, these are BAD girls…they have a BAD look in their eyes….we should steer clear….”
- “Do you guys think I should dye my hair [x whatever color]? What about [x other color]?” (milk it, this one can go on for about 60 seconds)
- “Did you guys know Elvis died his hair? Yeah, his natural color was blond. Isn’t that fucked-up?”
- “Ladies, I am an artist, and I’m going to draw a portrait of you for free” (scribble on a pad and make a painfully awkward stick figure, sign it and give it to her)
- “Have you guys ever noticed how girls hold their drinks up like this” (hoist glass with pinkie in the air) “And guys hold their drinks like this” (hold drink below the belt)
- Are you Guys sisters? You look alike.
- Hey guys, I like that girl over there, but don’t know how to approach her, any tips?
Approaching Together With Friend (to Groups of Girls)
- “Who do you think has better hair, me or him?”
- “Which of us looks like a better kisser?”
- “Are you two gay [or a couple]” (beat) “Not that there’d be anything wrong with that”
- “How, do you think my friend looks like [x celebrity]?”
- “If you could sleep with any historical figure, who would you sleep with?”
- “Hi, my friend thinks you are beautiful and wants to meet you, but he’s chicken shit, so I told him I’d come over here and road-test you.”
NONVERBAL
- High five
- Stick tongue out at her
– Clink glasses (cheers)
- Swat girls ass as she goes by
- Grab/smack ass (if preceded by fuck-me eyes)
- Smile, wave at her and walk over…
- Dance up to where she is dancing and just start dancing with her until she says something
- Pretend you’re a mute beggar asking for some change by throwing out your hands, and no matter what she does (refuse to give you change, or gives you some), tease her about it…
THROWAWAY HUMOR (use these as throwaway jokes to springboard to a better topic)
- “Is there lint on my jacket? [turn back to her] Brush it off, brush it off.”
- “I’ve lost my virginity. Can I borrow yours?” (young girls)
- “Excuse me, I just noticed you weren’t wearing any panties.” (wait for response, look at watch, then): “Oh, I’m sorry…my watch is fast.”
- “Hey, I just have to say, I really like your outfit, but you know what would look better on you?” (beat) “…Nothing.” (either go with sexual or playfully misinterpret that you were NOT implying nudity)
- “Hey, did we go to different schools together?”
- “Hey, Laura, OMG, long time, you’ve changed so much!” (when she says she’s not Laura) “Oh my God, you even changed your name!”
- “OOGA BOOGA BOO”
- “You have a *beep* on your nose” (what? reach over and lightly poke her nose) “BEEP!”
- “Can you do me a huge favor? I’ll be eternally indebted to you — Pretend you’re my new girlfriend? My ex is crazy stalking me and she just walked in!”
- (walk up to group arms waving) “IT’S SAUSAGE TIME!”
- “Do you know kung-fu? Cause your ass is KICKIN”
- “Hi, do you have any STDs?” (no, what, whatever) “Good, neither do I.”
- “Do you think guys should shave *down there*?”
- “Excuse me, do you have the time?” (her: yeah its…) “‘Cause I have the energy”
TEASES (use sparingly)
- “Did you know your nose wiggles when you talk?”
- “That’s a nice [article of clothing] you have on….I saw that on another girl just yesterday…”
- “Wow, you’re really beautiful….you could be a model….like a hand model or something”
- “Is that your natural hair color?”
- “Those are great nails… are they real?”
- “You look confused.”
- “Excuse me, are you tired?” (wait for her response) “Because you look kinda sweaty, like you’ve been running.”
- “Excuse me, your mascara is running”
- “You have a very unique personal style.”
- “So where are all the hot girls at tonight?”
- (if she looks young) “So how’d you get your fake ID?”
OPINION / SOLICITOUS (require feedback, however illusory)
- “Is the music always this crappy [good, whatever]?”
- Hey, you look pretty fashionable [to a woman who is dressed with some killer style], I want your opinion about [whatever interests you about your own personal fashion]
- Is the line on this ticket stand always this long?
- “Hey, have you seen [movie / heard new CD]? What did you think of it?”
- “Does my breath smell bad?”
- “Do you guys think rockstar David Bowie [x insert celebrity] is hot?”
- “Hey, who do you think lies more, boys or girls?”
- “Guys, I need a female opinion….[insert bullshit requirement for female opinion story]”
- “Who has more sex appeal, [x cartoon character] or [y cartoon character]?”
- “Is there a draft in here?” (yes, no, whatever) “Well, you’re hardly wearing anything anyway…”
- “So which do you think is sexier, boxers or briefs? What about the boxer-briefs? What about on girls?”
- “Hey guys…which do you think is better….GANGSTA lovin’….or THUG lovin’?”
- “Hey I have a question…would you sleep with Jesus?”
- (after girl blows some other guy out) “Hahaha…..huhuhuhh….UR HOT….huhhuh” (Beavis and Butthead imitation)
- (after girl blows rejects a guy pretty harsh) “What did he say?” “Really?” “So what would have worked?”
- “Hey, would you date a guy who lived in a tent?”
- “Would you date a guy in a wheelchair?”
- “Do these jeans make my ass look fat?”
- How do you keep your hair so silky? Man, you gotta recommend me your shampoo.
- How did you like the performance/concert/movie… [after a theatre/film/concert as people are leaving]
AMBIGUOUS (about your sexuality, disarms some automatic defenses)
- “OMG I love this song!”
- “OMG girl you look SOOOO Cute in that skirt…” (affecting gay accent, works best in gay bars)
NOTE: Some of these may seem weird, or you might think “oh my god, women would think I am weird if I said that”… Don’t use those! For every line on here there are guys who can start a conversation with it effortlessly… The reason? It fits with their personality… For some of these it has to be pretty obvious you’re kidding around, talking tongue-in-cheek or making a double-meaning etc… making a funny comment… If you’re not that kind of a guy (yet), you might just come off as weird. The vast majority on this list are meant to be humourous… if you can’t see the humour in them (i.e. you imagine a woman smiling and starting a funny, teasing, interesting conversation with you when you use them), then just go for the serious, bland ones until you get more comfortable. Go for the ones you can see (eventually) working. Your criteria should be “it seems hard for me to do, but I can see it working”.
