We just got this question in:
hi,
There is the question of age… Now i am already 54, and girls [lets say in the age of 25 till 35], they see me as an old man. This happened rather suddenly for my feeling. Do you have some advises on the age matter? How to talk to girls when you are older?
I am glad to hear them,
Thanks,
Bart
Hi Bart, thanks for writing in. You didn’t tell me your results from the dating quiz? Anyway, I am just going to share with you what one of the main dating instructors in a dating company shared with me recently (he’s about 30 and exclusively dates 18 and 19 year olds): “You know what’s interesting? No one calls me out on my age any more. When I was starting out, every girl would ask me about my age or test me about it, some would even get offensive about it. Now, the more successful I have gotten, the less often I got asked… and all of a suddenly it stopped. My age isn’t even an issue. They just simply never ask any more.”
Once we got down to talking more about it he revealed how he believes that it is entirely about the attitude you have, how you come across and the “energy” you put forth. Now don’t let the new-agey term throw you off.
Energy is simply a term to describe all the microscopic details of how you come across that aren’t easily describable, so we just say “he has a friendly energy”, “he has an inviting energy”, instead of saying “his perpendicular cortex Nr. 5 was leaning 23 degrees to the forward, and this indicates friendliness”
The process that he (my friend) went through can be observed in the reverse as well. This is probably what has happened with you as well. A dead giveaway is the fact you said it happened all of a sudden, and “over-night”.
Do you think anyone talks to George Clooney (47), or Jack Nicholson (70) as an “old guy”, for that matter? No, both are dating much, much younger women. If you were to say that this is only because they are celebrities, you would be right, except that they are dating young female celebrities who have their choice out of a pool of hot young male celebrities. Why are 20-something female celebrities choosing Jack Nicholson over young male models? If you want to know why, observe his “energy” in interviews, award-ceremonies and speeches.
To bring this point closer to home. We might also look at “older” dating coaches. A great example is Ozzie (of RSD fame). He is now 41 years old, but has a better sexual life than most men half his age. You can view his transformation here. Scroll down to the “ozzie” section and look at his visual transformation. See how he grows “younger”, and then take into account that energy is not even captured that well in photos and imagine how much more younger he is in real life.
Another great example is Ross Jeffries (50 years of age). He has not only been dating, charming and conversing with the same 20-something age-group since he had started learning this skill, but he has been getting more and more successful throughout the years. He is also a great person to learn how to talk to girls from.
