I hear and see this question all over the place: “How do I talk to girls?!”. I even get it from guys who took my secret quiz! I’m not kidding! Even people who took my quiz and got personalized results on how to do it, are still emailing me and asking me how to talk to girls… so I decided to write a nice overview article on it… So how do you talk to girls?
The smart ass answer: The same way you talk to everyone else.
Now… Whenever I hear the question “how do I talk to girls?”… i know there’s something deeper there. These guys really aren’t asking how to talk to girls. They already know how to talk to girls. They already have a male best friend that they talk to effortlessly. What they REALLY want to know is:
“how do i feel comfortable in approaching a girl and how do i make her like me? ”
“what do I say to that girl so i don’t get rejected? ”
“what do i talk to her about so she likes me and is impressed by me?”
…. Now THESE are the real issues!
To quote one what of my mentors on this skill of “how to talk to girls”, he said… “the great secret to being great with women is to go out and interact with as many of them as possible”. It really is that simple… The more girls you talk to, the better and better you will get.
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im going to be a freshmen in highschool and i want to know how to talk to girls and get them to want to be around me, and im not that good looking
It seems I’ve learnt a little bit from your article, hopefully I hope it is useful, i’ll be on my way
What do i have to say if i see a girl at a supermarket
im going to be a freshmen next year and im pretty good looking but i dont know how to talk to them maybe illl take your advice and talk to abunch of girls and maybe ill get better at it.
im a freshman as well and im like a dream guy laid back emo skater that plays guitar but there is this one girl from a private school i think she likes me but i dont want to screw it up help please
I’m also a freshman in high school. I’m alright looking and have a fun personality and I really like this one girl, but I have no clue how to stay comfortable around her. I just sort of freeze up when I talk to her. please help me.
theres this one girl a year older than me, and she has a bf, i dont want her to break up with him ,cuz she’s extremely beautiful but if they do break up what do i do????my friend makes her laugh in band and i have b4 but now that she knows i like her she won’t laugh
Laid back emo skater? Rofl
Hi Carlos, some great suggestions, but it doesn’t answer the questions that I haven’t been able to figure out so far. How do I get them interested in a conversation? I am an Indian (Asian), and I know I lack confidence, but I also know for a fact that once anyone (and I practice a LOT with random people) start talking to me, they enjoy the conversation, and many stick around for a while! What I’m now learning in clubs is women have preconceptions, I dont know what they are, but they see me and they’re simply not interested. How do I break through these barriers and get them interested in talking to me?
I am so alone and wanna to get a cute girl friend. How can I impress any girl on the street or collage? Please help me.
Am a very shy n nervous guy, i find it difficult 2 talk 2 girls simply bcus i dnt knw wat 2 say and how to start. Please help me.