What is the best strategy to learning how to talk to girls?
The best and most effective formula I have found through many years of testing, is the following.
1) Get basic social skills
This means being able to talk comfortably with most people in social circles. That is primarily guys and women who aren’t your type. You do this by a) joining as many social enviroments as you can. Signing up for different classes, joining different organizations etc… And then getting some conversation starters… and simply going on to to use them to *start* conversations with as many people as you can… It doesn’t matter what happens. As long as you throw out these comments or opening icebreakers… you’re fine. Keep repeating this until you are comfortable engaging most people in such situations comfortably.
You know you’ve achieved this when you are getting invited to places by people as well having quite a few new cool acquaintances and maybe even a few new cool friends (i.e. guys who are very smooth with the ladies).
2) Move on to starting conversations with girls
This means doing the same process as above in those same situations, except now moving onto girls you find attractive… Do this until you are comfortable starting conversations with most of them.
3) Upgrade yourself to starting conversations with girls in other enviroments
This includes malls or bars and clubs.
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NOW… in all of this you might asking yourself… but wait… What about how to TALK to them? Won’t this just get me like just *starting* conversations with them? What about talking to them, and like… being good at “chatting them up”?!!?
Well, here’s the secret bonus. The benefit of all this is that… if you just go out to simply start conversations with as many girls as possible, what will happen is that naturally and organically your “conversational skills” will develop, without any need on your part to consciously work on them.
