In part 1, we’ve learned WHY “be yourself” is truly a great advice, yet at the same it’s one of the dumbest advices in history. So how can you use this to it’s greatest extent? How do you balance those two. How do you “be yourself” and the same time attract women to you?
“Be your BEST self”
And unlike women, I will not leave you hanging by not explaining what this actually means in practical terms.
Here’s the deal: women’s attraction to men is based on a man’s unique attributes. The more a man has one of these attributes, the more attractive he will be to women. The attributes that women are attracted to are:
- Looks
- Social status
- Fame
- Confidence/Good BodyLanguage
- Self-esteem
- Positivity/Emotional expressiveness
- Humor
- Intelligence
- Social Skills (being social)
The way that the men who have learned how to be super-successful with women (the seduction community) use this knowledge about the attributes is that they have invented some extremely successful and fairly tested out ways of “DISPLAYING the attributes”. They have invented some (now scientifically proven) ways of making a woman perceive you as having these attributes, and being extremely attracted to you.
Sounds good right? Not really. A lot of these men are sleeping with playmates and having threesomes every second night, yet they’re miserable and unhappy. A lot of them always feel like they’re never good enough. That’s why we want to avoid that approach from the start and go straight to the way the world’s BEST operate. And how do the world’s best operate? They do it through a paradigm called:
“being your best self”
What that (best in the world) approach entails is simply:
1) Developing “the attributes” to their highest level (becoming as attractive as possible)
2) And being yourself
In this way you never talk to or approach women with an intent. You simply approach women and “let things happen”. You do not use any of these techniques or methods. You just approach women, and things simply happen.
How do things “just happen”? When you have “the attributes” they just do. How do you develop these attributes? We’ll be writing about this a lot, but for now I mostly suggest mainstream literature about developing each of these. A good and obvious advice is to check out amazon books about developing each of these separately (confidence, humor, social skills… etc…). In the meantime, you can also refer to DeAngelo’s tips for some good ideas on how to develop these.
p.s.
Take the dating personality quiz already. You’ll be surprised at the results.
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