Some dude from yahoo answers had a cool question. Now, its obvious he hasnt taken my secret quiz, but ignore that, and focus on his question, and how I answer it.

Question: I am just working on getting a date for the first time. I don’t know if 30 years old is a little too late for getting dates. Still a little shy, and working on pick-up lines hoping to attract some young ladies.

Answer: First off – yes its VERY normal! For both the man and the woman. In fact, if you don’t feel nervous, you’re either one of the top 5% of overconfident men, or you’re a narcissist (playa, womanizer, badboy etc). Most normal people feel nervous for a date, both asking a woman out on a date and going to the date.

As for pickup lines…

Let me bring up to speed. I’ve written about this at length, and I know this is going to sound weird, but pick up lines are not what you think. A pick up line will not “get you” a date. In fact, pick up lines are nothing but funny lines, a sort of conversation starter with a funny sexy, cheesy undertone.

And here’s the bad news. Not everyone can get away with a pick up line. In fact, most guys will fail and bomb using one, and have the girl looking at you like “get away from me your weirdo”. So what do you do? You use a CONVERSATION STARTER. What science (and plenty of personal experience) has found is that the best conversation starters are those simplest and most-to-the-point lines you can think of.

Stuff like “Hi, my name is, I thought I’d come over and introduce myself, and your name is?” or “How do you like the music tonight?” or “Hi guys, how’s it going tonight?”…

And heck, if you insist on going straight to the point, and not just starting a conversation first, you can use what I call direct-lines. This is like a pickup line, except its not cheesey or creepy. This is saying stuff like “Hi, I like you, I’ve seen you around, and I’m thinking about asking you out if you’re cool ”… Basically come straight out and say it.