So, what are the best ways to talk to girls? Actually, if you had taken my secret quiz on approaching women, you’d know there’s more than one. There are FOUR different ways to talk to girls that work… If you want to find out these 4 secret ways to talk to girls, read on…
1)The relaxed Attitude
Most men when they approach a hot-girl tend to
- act all nervous, or
- try to overcompensate by bragging or being loud and obnoxious
Both of these are unattractive and show the woman that you do not like yourself as you are. And believe you me, everyone can notice when you’re faking it and trying to be someone who you are not.
Being relaxed (girls call it “being yourself”), simply relaxing and just talking to the girl as if she was your cousin. This tends to be perceived as odd by most average men who tend to think they need to IMPRESS or shock a woman into submission by how great they are. Well… so did the 99 men who failed before you. The sooner you realize that being yourself is attractive, the sooner you will get the girls you desire.
*Note: being yourself doesn’t mean you are instantly an “attractive guy”. This is the part women don’t tell you when they say “oh, just be yourself”. The truth is that by relaxing and just having a normal conversation, all you do is not do all those “unattractive” things that 99% of men do. In order to also be perceived as more attractive, you have to actually BECOME attractive. You need to become a more charming, social, fit and witty individual FOR REAL.
2) The casual & cool attitude
This means acting like you’re there for the party – this is the attitude you put yourself in. Being the guy who’s dressed cool, talking to her friends about whatever the cool thing is… making cool remarks, talking about what you’re going to drink, not caring about what people think, just asking people to do funny stuff… and just generally having the goal to have fun… no matter what happens.
3) The funny and off-the-walls attitude
This is the guy who’s going over-the-board in not caring what people think. He’s making funny noises, running around and cracking retarded jokes… He’s waving his hands in an animated enthusiastic fashion and telling stories as if they were the most interesting thing on the planet. Again, this is an attitude you adopt… the attitude here is “i don’t care what anyone thinks, i’m just gonna have so much fun by being so outrageous that people gasp when I talk”
4) The smooth and polished attitude
Think james bond… There’s a danger here though of coming across as a “wannabe-playa”. You need to be coming from the attitude of an inner smirk. The thought process is “hmmm… what a cute woman… I know she wants me, let’s give her the poor girl a chance, she wants me so badly”… Simply try it out next time when you’re talking to a girl… do a little role play for a few minutes where you pretend you are a suave james-bond-like character who is having those thoughts. See what happens.
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