I’ve noticed an interest in “books” on talking to women. So with the fact that I’ve READ and APPLIED every single book on this topic in existence (no I’m not kidding you)… In fact, I was able to create my magic secret quiz, BASED on all the books I’ve read on how to talk to women. Hence I decided to compile a little list for ya of the best books. This is my top 10 list, each one with a description and explanation for the position.
Top 5 (The must-haves):
1) Any Woman, Any Where by Kevin Bates… This is a program that I am absolutely in love with… mostly because of the fact that it’s a KISS-based program. KISS = Keep It Simple Stupid. It has a very very simple plan on how to get you up to speed, up to the point where you can talk to ANY woman, ANY where without having too much information. Just the bare basics… the 10% of actions and knowledge that gives 90% of the results. I look at this program as the absolute BASIC foundation program for guys to go after before they attempt anything else… Reason being: If you master this program, you will become pretty good. Not jaw-opening masterfully awe-inspiring excellent… but pretty darn good.
The reason for this is again that KISS approach. This program teaches a single approach. A single simple approach and way of approaching women that works for most women, most of the time… and when mastered should leave you impressing just about any woman, and getting a date with a large percentage of them.
Now why is this important? Because… there are methods and programs out there who contains 47298 different approaches each with 3829 distinctions and sub-types for 37892 different types of women. And yes… if you master those programs, you will have more success than if you just master AWAW… but, not by much. If mastering this program gives you a certain success, than mastering these other ones gives you maybe 10-25% success more.
Yet MOST guys get stuck with those other programs… spending YEARS without getting a single date because they want to have the PERFECT method that works with the MOST women imaginable… and in the meantime they get nothing less.
This program is “good enough” and it takes a small percentage of the time it takes to master the other ones. I recommend it before the others as a way to get the basics handled. Once you get this one handled, the others will be much easier to do… anyway.
Check out the interview I did with it’s author here.
2) Xuma’s Approach Women NOW – Course
I love Xuma’s course… but that’s probably because I am biased. One source of my bias is the fact that I am very left-brained and analytical. I like to disassemble things and figure them out… or have them dissected for me so I can grasp them.
This is what Xuma does in this course… He goes out give you the blueprint of what approaching ideally looks like and then what the process of mastering approaching looks like. I often quote this program in many of the articles on this site because it has a stunningly good breakdown of the groups of men who might look for a book on how to talk to women. It’s so blindingly obvious why it is important once you get it… yet no one else does this. Basically what xuma does is break down all men into 4 groups, and then gives a differen “gameplan” to solving approaching for the different types of men (or rather levels).
I consider this product like the overall explanation of all things approaching. It explains all the CRUCIAL theory without going into TOO much theory (like say David DeAngelo’s approaching program) . And at the same time it gives practial “go there, do this” type of advice and exact lines, words and things to do. One problem is that it doesn’t include a step-by-step program (bootcamp) like some of the others do. It’s more of a program that actually guides you how to understand the entire process, and construct such a bootcamp for yourself.
3) Art of Approaching by Joseph Matthews…
Joseph (otherwise known as thundercat) is almost legendary in the “seduction community”. He was pretty much the very first person in this area to write a comprehensive (and practical guide on approaching)… By practical I am refering to the fact that it actually contains information on how to start approaching and how to go from not being able to approach at all… all the way to being good at it. Most of the material in the seduction community only touched upon approaching in terms of how to do it better, but… no information on how to BEGIN doing it in the first place.
The book contains the basic theory on approaching… in regards to what you can expect when talking to women, how to approach them, what to say, different lines and knowing how to use them. A practical “bootcamp” or rather plan of action broken down in days of the week and how to go about implementing the stuff you learn.
Note : A weakness I’ve seen with this product is that it keeps growing. Joseph in trying to put in as much value as possible in the product has the book growing with each edition… and it is now at the point where… it’s just OVERloaded with all kinds of information on all facets of approaching, talking to women, storytelling, body-language, handling inner obstacles to success etc… etc. Which isn’t bad in and of itself… It’s just that 90% of it is not “universally” needed. So when you get this ebook, I suggest you only concentrate on the basics of approaching and the practical program. Master that first before delving into the other sections.
4) Demonic Confidence by Lucas West… This is a program that has by now reached MYTHICAL reputation. It’s known for the fact that there isn’t a single person who has finished this program… and who doesn’t have an *at least* above average sex-life and confidence with women. It’s basically a professionally structured program that tells you exactly what to do… step by step… day by day to get “demonic confidence”… This is the confidence to approach ANY woman anywhere and be able to proceed boldly and fearlessly into any advanced element (be it going for the date, the kiss, the seduction, the number etc…). The program is simply structured in such a manner that you are given a mission each day (go and ask these kinds of people for this today).
Note: With this program there are absolutely zero instructions on HOW to talk to women, what to say, where to approach them from… etc. The author has left these parts out on purpose as this program is meant to bring out the best out of you. To get you to the place where you can DO anything you wish. See, many of these other program tell you WHAT to do (go and say this to a woman, and then do this), but the truth is 99% of men who buy these programs can’t even “do” these things in the first place. Another con is that this program is somewhat difficult in practical terms (finding the time to fit it in).
Another 4 (optional and fun)
1) Jeffries Approaching Course
2) Don Juan BootCamp (FREE!!)
3) Instant Street Dating
4) Mastery With Women by Ron Louis and David Copeland
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