A lot of men notice that some of the hottest girls you ever see are girls that you see while you’re on your way to somewhere: on the pedestrian walk, in the supermarket, in the park walking a dog, in a café, on the sidewalks looking into boutiques etc… One has to wonder how to talk to girls in these situations.

I’m going to answer the two hottest questions first, before anything:

1) Can you talk to and seduce these girls – YES, very easily

2) Should you – NO, not really

Why?

Lemme backtrack a little bit. There was a time when entering this whole area of how to talk to girls, approaching them, meeting them and dating them…

… that picking up girls on the streets is ALL that I did. I didn’t even socialize (I barely had any time left), I was obssesed with what the “seduction community” calls “street game”. I had to perfect and master it… I felt like I had to be able to approach ANY girl, anywhere and pick her up right then and there.

Did it make me happy when I reached this mastery? Not really. All it did was stun my friends and acquintances when they could see me walk up to the hottest girls in the mall or on a pedestrian walk and get their number or a date… But why is it un-fulfilling exactly?

It’s A LOT of freaking work!

A LOT!

The best of the best of the best in the world, can only get maybe one in 15 girls they meet on the street. Does that mean they get snubbed or rejected 14 times? No, they actually have fun conversations and even get coffee-dates with almost every single one of these girls, and even become acquaintances with them or go out on a date with them, but they don’t actually HOOK UP with most of these women.

See, the main problem is that women in our society are simply too brainwashed against hooking up with strangers they met on the street. It has been put up there on the same level as taking drugs or child molestation.

Is it possible to increase this measly (5-10%) success rate? Yes, if you spend months upon months on each and every single one of these women… but it’s simply not worth it. In the same time you could have met hundreds of women in night clubs, organizations, social circles and the like.

Does this mean you shouldn’t be talking to girls on the streets at all?

NO, that’s not what I’m saying.

You should become the kind of a friendly person who engages and talks to girls everywhere. You should be talking to all the hot girls you see outside. What you shouldn’t be doing, is trying to “seduce” and pickup girls off the streets.

My ultimate goal for you is to become the kind of a person who talks to EVERYONE! When you’re out and about, you talk to everyone who crosses your path. You’re the friendly, charismatic person that everyone loves being around. And hey, if it just so happens that one of these people is a hot girl, then even better.

If a girl happens to be in your line in the supermarket, strike up a conversation. If a girl bumps into you when crossing the street, crack a joke. If her dog starts sniffing yours, have a pleasant conversation. If anything happens with these women, it happens, but let things happen naturally! Do not try to pickup these women, let things unfold naturally. You might ask “but how are things going to happen by themselves if I don’t try to pick them up?”. The answers is that if you:

1) Are purposefully picking up women in other venues on a regular basis

2) Talking to everyone else, and hot women just happen to be “the next person”

Things WILL happen on their own. You will “find yourself” exchanging numbers or deciding to continue the conversation in a cafe nearby.

Now, note, when it comes to other venues of meeting girls, you do need to be more proactive and pro-actively go about “getting” girls…

But when it comes to women in the streets:

1) Resolve to become the kind of person who talks to anyone, anywhere. If for example you happen to be in a line waiting to pay, strike up the conversation with everyone in that line. Have fun as you’re waiting and talk to these people. Act the exact same way if it’s a line full of old men, as if it were a line full of hot girls. Just be friendly and talk to everyone.

2) If one of these situations with a girl naturally evolves into something more, i.e. you find yourself exchanging numbers… that’s great. If you just talk to this hot girl for 2 minutes about your dogs… that’s just as great. You do not CARE… you’re not there to pickup women… besides you get a lot of hot women in your life from all these other places… Right?

One great explanation I’ve heard of this was by the approaching master DeAngelo, who says in his “approaching women program”:

“MY hope for you is not that you become an approaching-women-kung-fu-artist… like go through the movie approaching every single woman you see. If you make it your objective to become the idealized [approaching] monster, where every woman you see, that’s all you do, is you approach her: you’re gonna find that you’re not gonna have a life anymore, because all you’re gonna be doing is talking to women.

You can get good enough where you can go out and in a weekend go out a couple of times, get 3, 4, 5 email addresses and phone numbers. That will keep you busy for a loooooong time if you effectively follow up. In fact my hope for you is that you get over this fear in your life […] and you just learn to take advantage of all the moments that happen automatically with attractive women.

The situations you find yourself in where something could just kinda get sparked or y’know, conversation can strike up, just y’know automatically on its own… If you just learn how to handle those situations and don’t let those slip through the cracks, you’ll have a better social life than 99.9% of men “

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